Last weeks improved formula still feels good to me - so I'm continuing on with the books I read in June and July.
The Art of Gathering - Priya Parker
Why I read this: This book was recommended by ChatGPT when I was working through my original not-so-great growth plan. Specifically it was recommended with the intent of making me a more capable facilitator of meetings and how to get more out of meetings where I was a participant.
Reflection: This is one of the 'everyone must read' books that I've read this year. Parker provides a strong framework on how to elevate all forms of gatherings - whether it's a status meeting at work or a dinner party at home. Establishing and defending a purpose for a gathering is something that seems so obvious - but in my experience is so rare. I have some complaints about how Parker delivers her message (I get it - she knows every famous person and has been to every cool underground event) - but the message is worth hearing and taking to heart.
Nuclear Weapons and Foreign Policy - Henry Kissinger
Why I read this: I got this book from Goodwill or a library sale - and to be entirely honest I picked it because I was traveling and wanted something that would easily fit into my laptop bag. I had genuine interest in the book - but I can't claim that my motivations were any more complex than it was a smaller book that would easily pack.
Reflection: I was actually incredibly surprised by how interesting I found this book. Kissinger is a controversial figure - but his understanding and mastery of foreign policy really can't be questioned. This book is nearly 60 years old and Kissinger's analyses are still relevant and worth understanding. This book will not make you feel warm and fuzzy, nor will it inspire much confidence in the future of humanity - but Kissinger understood that in a world with nuclear weapons; classic military doctrine could no longer be sustained. For some reason as I read this - "War Pigs" by Black Sabbath wouldn't stop playing in my head...
Chaos - James Gleick
Why I read this: I read this book for the first time several years ago - I had pulled it off the shelf this year to find a passage that I remembered that had been relevant to a conversation I was having. As I was skimming through looking for the bit that I wanted to share; I was reminded how interesting the book was and decided I may as well just give it another read.
Reflection: This is honestly such a great book. None of the topics that Gleick covers are particularly simple or approachable - but somehow he spins them together in a way that makes them go down nice and easy. This is the kind of book that you just want to talk about with anyone who will listen - the number of times (much to my wife's chagrin) that I started a sentence with "Really cool thing I just read..." - from a personal growth perspective this book is like a manual on dealing with uncertainty. It was from this book that I developed one of my desktop sticky note mantras. "Design with uncertainty, don't try to eliminate it"
The No Asshole Rule - Robert Sutton
Why I read this: I read this book during a period where I couldn't spend any money on books but I wanted to continue reading things that were relevant - so I asked ChatGPT to review the list of books I already owned and recommend one that would be the most productive/valuable. This was the result. Luckily it really was a pretty good recommendation and wasn't too far out of left field - if I want to help organizations change for the better; knowing how to create safe space for difficult conversations was a must.
Reflection: I am lucky enough to work in a space where I don't really think of anyone as an asshole, and where generally believe this type of safe space already exists (though I don't believe it gets much use - so maybe some tension there). There's really no question that the ability to set ego and self aside when giving and receiving constructive feedback is one of the hardest things to do in any space - personal or professional. It requires clear rules of engagement and trust built up over time and effort. I particularly appreciate that the author provides a self-diagnostic test - turns out that maybe sometimes the asshole is me. (I bet sometimes it's you too)
Team of Teams - General Stanley McChrystal
Why I read this: ChatGPT recommendation. This is probably the single most referenced and recommended work when talking about building decentralized trust based teams. I think you would have a difficult time identifying any dialogue on generative cultures or trust based organizations that don't have some roots found in this book.
Reflection: When I first started this book - I remember being a bit shocked that the first group of people that seemed to 'figure out' how to operate a fast moving, decentralized, complex organization in the digital world was actually Al Qaeda. A bit unsettling to me that my desire to build stronger organizations led me to learn core valuable principles from one of the most well known terrorist organizations of the past 50 years. That aside - this book is a real eye opener. No longer can organizations operate using hierarchical command and control methods - in that model the fires will always move faster than the extinguishers. Instead - leaders need to empower and trust their people to act independently. Efficiency is no longer the mark of a high performing organization - resilience and emergence are the new benchmarks. The pursuit of these has become the focus of much of my efforts to grow my knowledge/skills.
The Tipping Point - Malcolm Gladwell
Why I read this: If I want to be successful in my pursuits - its not enough to know how to build better organizations. I have to be able to get other people to join in and build with me. This book is purely focused on how to push an idea over that edge - so it was an obvious choice to include in my reading list.
Reflection: Much of this book has become a bit dated - but there are core concepts that are still absolutely valuable and worth learning. The piece that resonated the most with me is in Gladwell's Law of the Few portion of the book. The roles of connectors, mavens, and salesmen - and more generically understanding that calculated effort at the 'micro' level is the secret to unlocking adoption at the 'macro' level is timeless knowledge that can be applied in any medium in pursuit of any goal.
The Mom Test -Rob Fitzpatrick
Why I read this: During the course of this year I have been toying with a 'million dollar idea' that I have serious intentions of building a start-up around. This book is an excellent guide on how to be sure that your million dollar idea is really worth pursuing.
Reflection: The underlying thesis of this book is that it's really easy to find affirmation for your ideas - but that affirmation is almost always completely meaningless/useless. Nobody who cares about you wants to hurt your ego. People who don't know you will tell you what you want to hear to get you out of their hair. Learning to re-frame how you solicit feedback is vital to making intelligent and informed decisions. Fitzpatrick provides an incredibly simple and accessible method for 'tricking' people into telling you what they really think.